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“Self belief and hard work will always earn you success.”
~ Virat Kohli

Helping You Find Success With Personalized Coaching

Feel Like It’s Time to Make a Change in Your Life, But Can’t Seem to Find a Way?

Being a coach means that we place ourselves in a position of trust with our clients and it is beholden upon us to ensure that we not only act in a morally responsible and professional manner, but that we equip ourselves with the tools to resolve the moral and ethical conflicts that arise because of the close interaction of our work.

Techniques Used

Attentive Listening

Incisive Questioning

Scaling

Reframing

Miracle Question

Goal Selection

Evaluation

Validation

How Do I know If Coaching is Right For Me?

Sometimes You Need to Judge a Book by Its Cover
  • Employees who are sloppy-in appearance as well as mannerisms-need coaching.
  • Dressing inappropriately, having poor manners, and carelessly causing distractions brings down not only an individual employee’s performance, but the attitude and performance of the people around them as well.

How Coaching Can Help 

Personal appearance and decorum are directly connected to attitude and performance but broaching the subject can be tricky. Fortunately, an effective coach knows exactly how to handle this type of situation with tact and grace. When all is said and done, your “sloppy” employee should be able to represent himself or herself, as well as your organization, in a much more positive way. 

How Many Strikes is Too Many?
  • Making mistake after mistake is one of the most obvious signs that an employee needs some coaching.  
  • Inaccuracies and inefficiencies can cost your company a lot of cash.  
  • However, it’s important to avoid assuming that these failures are due to an employee being incapable of doing the job successfully. There may be other, less-obvious reasons behind the employee’s errors.  

How Coaching Can Help 

Coaches can step back from the situation, look at it objectively, and evaluate what’s really going on. The reasons behind the employee’s failings may not be obvious right away. Does the employee know how to use the tools or equipment needed to do the job? Is the workspace and surrounding environment conducive to completing the work successfully? 

If you answered “no” to either of these questions, the problem may be a simple lack of training or organization. Identifying and creating a clear-cut training and development plan for the employee (and motivating the employee to get it accomplished) is right in the wheelhouse of a good coach. 

Why Am I Here?
  • Bored. Easily distracted. Unhappy.
  • Whatever word you use, they all mean the same thing when it comes to employee engagement on the job.  
  • The thing is, disengagement, it doesn’t necessarily mean your employee doesn’t want to do the work, they just aren’t being fulfilled by it. 
  • Do they find their work to be interesting and challenging? If the answer is “no,” your employee may be in the wrong role for his or her disposition. 

How Coaching Can Help 

Having a coach meet one-on-one with disengaged employees to ask if they are satisfied with their job duties and roles can open your eyes to the (often-unexpected) reasons behind their boredom. What are their current and future expectations for their careers? What can be done to make their jobs more fulfilling to them? Could they use some variety in their tasks or a different position? 

Coaching an employee to find a better fit for their strengths and aspirations (and then also coaching them on how to work towards moving into their desired role) can positively affect employee satisfaction and productivity. 

Where’s the Breaking Point?
  • On the outside, overworked employees may not seem overwhelmed at all. In fact, they may appear calm, collected, and willing to take on anything-and they are! 
  • However, underneath that cool exterior may be an employee who tries to do their best at all times 
  • The pressure of never working up to the expectations they have of themselves (or that they perceive others to have of them) can take an ugly toll. Before you know it, this type of employee may suddenly collapse under the stress and quit their jobs quite unexpectedly (and for no apparent reason). 

How Coaching Can Help 

Employees who are overwhelmed tend to thrive once they have a chance to clearly communicate their stresses to a coach. Providing employees with needed support and feedback gives them the confidence to voice their concerns and know that they’re being heard. When they’re nurtured and given guidance on how to prioritize what’s important (and let go of what is not), overworked, high-performing employees will be able to free up more energy for the work that they’re passionate about-and they’ll thrive. 

Recognizing the Red Flags

Recognise the “red flags” that your employees are exhibiting and move forward, offering the coaching they need. If you do, you will suddenly see their efforts, strengths, and potentially become an integral and outstanding part of your team. A talented coach knows exactly what needs to be done to unleash the untapped potential and discretionary performance of every member of an organisation. Constructive coaches build team-member commitment, invite employees to work hard to accomplish goals and become indispensable partners in the business, and help to maintain (and even transform) a company’s competitive advantage in a genuine and sustainable way. 

How It Works

What is the process of coaching?

The following are common steps that take place when a client and coach work together.

  • The client seeks an outcome, or the client is not content with what she is doing, not sure what she wants. This desired outcome may be a behaviour change, improved relationship, enhanced performance, recovery from an emotional trauma or any shift from a disempowering current situation to an empowering future outcome.
  • Whatever is standing in the way of achieving the desired outcome or clarity in an outcome is largely an unconscious block.
  • This unconscious block is triggered by past experiences that limit and disempower the client.
  • The coach explores the client’s beliefs and values to uncover the triggers causing the block and the disempowering behaviour and creates conscious awareness of root causes so far remaining unconscious.
  • The coach reframes the client’s perspective in the light of this awareness to help develop action plans to move towards the desired outcome.
  • The coach helps to anchor the reframed mindset and behaviour in the client, and to make the client accountable for the outcome desired.

Unconscious mind blocks

  • Any incident of an emotional trauma is shifted by our mind to an unconscious level to allow us to recover from the trauma (Iceberg model of Freud/Jung). 
  • Often these unconscious memories of traumas are formed in childhood when we are in the impressionable delta, theta and alpha brain wave patterns, or in cases of violent trauma as in cases of PTSD. 
  • Psychologists believe that 90% of memories we hold are in the unconscious state; more traumatic they are the deeper they are buried; these memories are mostly emotion laden, and often visual. 
  • Despite not being visible, these unconscious emotion laden memories influence us in the present and script our future. 
  • Understanding unconscious mind blocks that drive us by making them conscious empowers us to re-script our future. 
  • Coaching is about making the unconscious conscious. 

Coaching helps create Awareness

  • Coaching moves the client from the state unconscious mind blocks to a state of awareness of what these are.
  • The coach explores the values and beliefs of client to help understand what stands between desired outcome and the present reality.
  • A coach works on the truth that one can change very little of the external world; all change has to be from within. Creating this awareness is the most critical part of coaching; client cannot proceed without being aware of what mind blocks are.
  • At EMERGE, we work with powerful proprietary processes blending strengths, Solutions Focused, Positive Psychology, Integral Coaching etc. to create awareness.

Coaching Leads from Awareness to Action

  • Once the blocks have been discovered, the coach helps the client to evolve several options to reach the desired outcome. 
  • The client evaluates the options and selects the most appropriate one for them. Often, this process of selecting the best option is not necessarily a cognitive one, but an emotional, and unconscious selection. The unconscious makes the best choices. At EMERGE, for example, we employ processes of self-discovery, using meditative techniques, to enable selection of the right choices in action.

Coaching Anchors Action into a New Habit

  • Old habits die hard. Neuroplasticity requires repetition of an action to form new neural connections that form a new behaviour as a habit.
  • Visualization, for example, is an effective process to anchor and embed new behaviour. At EMERGE we use meditative visualization to anchor actions client undertakes to create new empowering behaviour.

Still Have Questions?